READY TO DATE? Read it and think about it….
Ok, I saw this posted on my bulletin board. Take a look. I wanted to comment on this, but since I do not want to humiliate or embarrass anyone by doing it publicly, so I decided to do it here. I know it is still public, but chances are that not that many people visit blogs. So anyway….go ahead…
"It’s good to wait…"
Have you ever realised that too many youth these days are going on relationships.. whether christian or not christian. Therefore, comes unnecessary heartaches, wasted time, deteriorating school results etc. The worst, suicide and negative activities. Youths are the people with the most potential but yet, needs to be guided in the proper way. It’s a crucial time when one’s character is moulded and seen. I’m not stereotyping that after someone goes through his teenage years, he’ll be who he is and will not change. Yes, he still can change but that takes a longer process depending on his current personality. Therefore, when someone is in their teenager years, it’s easier to guide them. Coming back to our original topic, Why wait? To make things simple in my own way, ask yourself a few questions before starting a relationship..
a) Maturity-Ready to handle the commitment? Ready to not see other people and only focusing on one person?
b) Parents-Does your parents support your relationship? Do they know who you’re going out with? Parents know better, as they will know how to discern your partner’s character. I’m telling you, it’s much more fun and stress-free when your parents know who u’re going out with and who u like.
c) Status-If you’re a guy, do u think ur financial status is ready to pay for outings, movies and etc.? If you’re still schooling and dependant on parents.. two words.. FORGET IT Girls:- You really think he’s the one? Is he someone who manages his money well? Are you sure you want to marry a wasteful person if you think you’re deeply in love with him..
Attraction is different from love. Love is something which will wait.. Lust cannot.. Love gives, Lust takes. This is something which I have to remind myself day after day whenever I get myself attracted to somebody. Before you start a relationship, think about it, what if u break up with that someone? Will you be able to bear that heartache? What will the other ppl see in u? Yes, being in "Love" like what they say is like being on cloud nine. But i have seen many ppl’s world fall because of this issue. While the time used should be on moulding their character, making genuine friendships, and yes.. STUDIES…. it is wasted one dreaming, SMSing, thinking and going out with that so-called "special" person. One thing i’ve learnt is that feelings fool u.. and i really wished i had kept them to myself. However, i guess we make mistakes.. therefore, we have to forgive ourselves and create a better tommorow.. look ahead and see.. there are so many things to enrichen ur life.. make it a meaningful one…………. Oh btw, don’t nurse a crush.. for it’ll turn into infatuation.. Quote from Joshua Harris
Ok…that’s the end of the article. Now, not that I’m saying that it’s a really bad article or anything coz there are some parts that I do agree with the author. However, there are some things he mentioned that struck me quite relative, and being a youth myself, I feel there that it is ok to be in a relationship if you consider yourself mature enough.
First thing is, I would like to mention one or two things about the maturity section. In the first place, if you want to be with someone, that already indicates that you are already going to focus on one person because that person is special to you-for that time anyway. If however sometime down the road, things are not working out, you could break up. Of course it’s going to be hard, but what’s the point if things are not working? It’s not like you are married, then in which case I would suggest that you try to work it out because a marriage is a vow, to your partner and to God. And also, the question the author poses "Ready not to see other people and only focusing on one person?" kinda implies to me that the author is suggesting that we play the field, which totally contradicts his whole article. Weird huh?
However, I totally agree with the parents part. I know, we all have something or someone we prefer our parents to know nothing about, but really, when all’s said and done, they do know better. Also, it saves a lot of energy from having to sneak out and stuff. More than that, it is also disobedient, and the Bible says to honour your fathr and your mother, which does NOT include lying to them. I know from personal experience that telling them you are going to a friend’s place when you are actually going partying is not a good idea.
Now we come to the part where I disagree most with the author, and basically prompted this comment. Status. Whoa….what century is this? Nowadays, dates are usually paid by the two separate people, unless of course its the first date or special occasions. I mean, we girls don’t mind paying for ourselves, but if the guy insists on paying for every date, more than likely he’s gonna get dumped. It does make any decent girl feel uncomfortable. And marriage? Excuse me, teenagers these days don’t look that far down the road. All we are looking for is some kind of mutual feeling and companionship. Whoever said anything about marriage..?? I have heard of people getting together in high school and eventually got married though, but that’s rare. And what’s wrong with getting a part-time job? It doesn’t have to be something difficult, but it does finance dates and stuff that you want so you don’t have to be totally dependent on your parents.
True, the author does make some valid points, but I think that there is nothing wrong in wanting to be with a special someone. It is just two close friends who have feelings for each other. As long as the relationship is kept pure I have nothing against it.
I mean, I had relationships before that didn’t quite work out, but those that I really care about are still friends with me. It is more important to me that I maintain some sort of a relationship with people I truly care about even though circumstances make it impossible for us to be together.
Anyway, this is my blog, so anything I say here is just my opinion. Obviously some other people would have different points of view, but like I said, this is just my opinion. No offence to anyone. ~_<
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