In My Mind….

I really really REALLY like this post. This was on my bulletin board. A guy wrote this, and I must say that some serious thought actually went into this. Whoever this guy is, he seems to be speaking from experience. And I think it’s really good, though I don’t think I agree with some of the points. But anyway, it is pretty insightful…

1. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.
2. Before they call, guys try to plan out a little about what they’re gonna say so there aren’t awkward pauses, but once he’s on the phone he forgets it all and makes it up as he goes.
3. Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile.
4. Guys will do anything just to get you to notice him.
5. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest. Unless they’re goin for the let-her-complain-to-you-and-then-have-her-realize-how-wonderful-and-nice-you-are method.
6. A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.
7. Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they’re still loved.
8. Don’t talk about your guy friends to your boyfriend.
9. Guys get jealous easily.
10. Guys are more emotional than they’d like people to think.
11. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh…nevermind.." would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. And he’ll assume he did something wrong and he’ll obsess about it trying to figure it out.
12. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.
13. Guys hate asking parents for money to buy girls presents. So they come up with ideas like saving their lunch money for a week. But it never works because guys are always hungry so they end up asking the parents for money anyway.
14. Girls are guys’ weaknesses.
15. Guys are very open about themselves.
16. It’s good to test a guy first before you trust him. But don’t let him wait too long.
17. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.
18. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice.
19. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.
20. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.
21. Guys will brag about anything.
22. Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. We rarely use beautiful. If a guy uses that, he likes you.
23. Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does, even if she doesn’t notice it can make the guy think about it for hours, trying to figure out what it meant.
24. Guys seek for advice from girls not other guys. Because most guys think alike, so if one guy’s confused, then we’re all confused.
25. Any guy could write out a rulebook or advice book for flirting, but no guy can write out a book about relationships.
26. Try to be as straightforward as possible.
27. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he’s too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won’t be mature and grown up.
28. If the guy does something stupid in front of the girl, he will think about it for the next couple days or until the next time he spends time with the girl.
29. No matter how much guys talk about bodies and looks, personality is key.
30. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.
31. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl, he really is. Guys rarely say that.
32. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he’s just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me."
33. Guys don’t really have final decisions.
34. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn’t happen that often, so when it does, you know something’s up.
35. If your best guy friend seems to avoid you or is never around when you’re with your boyfriend, he’s probably jealous and likes you.
36. Guys like femininity not feebleness.
37. Guys don’t like girls who punch harder than they do.
38. Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys.
39. Guys hate rejection, but they hate being led on even more.
40. Don’t be a snob. Guys can be intimidated and give up easily.

Ok, these are the ones I don’t agree with. Number 15 and 38.

For one thing, most guys are not very open about their feelings. They find it sooo difficult to tell a girl that they like them! And do you know how frustrating it is for a girl who knows that this guy likes her but can’t find the guts to open up about it? So in the end, if she also has feelings for this guy, she has to make the first move. That is not fair! According to the unwritten rules of relationships, GUYS are supposed to make the first move. But seriously though, that does not happen as much anymore. More and more girls are taking it into their own hands to make the first move because they just can’t take the waiting game anymore.

Now, since when guys talk more about girls then girls talk mroe about guys? Ok, I’m not a guy and I have no real idea what guys actually do talk about when they are not with girls. But I find it hard to believe that they do talk about girls that much, providing that No.38 is true. I find that most guys are interested in thngs like cars, or sports, or other ‘guy’ stuff like that. I mean, I accept that guys do talk about girls, but definitely not more than girls talk about guys. And that, I know for a fact. 

~@[d]3L!]\[#~

My very first driving lesson was on Monday.

Considering that I have not actually driven before the lesson, I was pretty much shaking when I got into the car. The norm thing to do here when you first get a Learner’s licence is to drive as much as possible to get as much pratice as possible before lessons start so that you don’t look like a total dumb ass in front of your teacher. However, as usual, my parents refused to be part of the norm and insisted that I should learn from scratch all the ways and methods aof driving; even cabin drill. According to them, it had something to do with ‘me not copying bad driving habits from either of them’. Personally, I think it was both cars are comparatively new (only a year plus old), and the cars’ welfare was higher on top of the priority list. LOL…

Well, not to say that I am a bad driver or anything, because my teacher was quite pleased about my driving that first lesson. Apart from the fact that I forgot to look for any cars coming from my left before I turned into a roundabout and I almost ran the car into an orchard of orange trees, he said that I did pretty well. =)…It did help that he had a safety break pedal on the passenger side of the car that he could use in case I couldn’t break in time.

I actually did have a lot of fun! He actually let me do a little speeding on the highway. I was so pumped that I wanted to do it all over again, so I booked another lesson this coming Monday! I can’t wait! The only thing is though, fees are pretty expensive. Its A$ 50 per lesson, it doesn’t matter if its less than the standard hour my lessons are suppose to last. If I only have a 30 minute lesson, I still have to pay A$50. That’s like RM 150!! But yea…since my parents agreed to pay for it, I’m not complaining. I guess though that sometime in the near future I would be expected to contribute too….*sigh*..

~@[d]3L!]\[#~

Ok, I saw this posted on my bulletin board. Take a look. I wanted to comment on this, but since I do not want to humiliate or embarrass anyone by doing it publicly, so I decided to do it here. I know it is still public, but chances are that not that many people visit blogs. So anyway….go ahead… 

"It’s good to wait…"

Have you ever realised that too many youth these days are going on relationships.. whether christian or not christian. Therefore, comes unnecessary heartaches, wasted time, deteriorating school results etc. The worst, suicide and negative activities. Youths are the people with the most potential but yet, needs to be guided in the proper way. It’s a crucial time when one’s character is moulded and seen. I’m not stereotyping that after someone goes through his teenage years, he’ll be who he is and will not change. Yes, he still can change but that takes a longer process depending on his current personality. Therefore, when someone is in their teenager years, it’s easier to guide them. Coming back to our original topic, Why wait? To make things simple in my own way, ask yourself a few questions before starting a relationship..

a) Maturity-Ready to handle the commitment? Ready to not see other people and only focusing on one person?

b) Parents-Does your parents support your relationship? Do they know who you’re going out with? Parents know better, as they will know how to discern your partner’s character. I’m telling you, it’s much more fun and stress-free when your parents know who u’re going out with and who u like.

c) Status-If you’re a guy, do u think ur financial status is ready to pay for outings, movies and etc.? If you’re still schooling and dependant on parents.. two words.. FORGET IT Girls:- You really think he’s the one? Is he someone who manages his money well? Are you sure you want to marry a wasteful person if you think you’re deeply in love with him..

Attraction is different from love. Love is something which will wait.. Lust cannot.. Love gives, Lust takes. This is something which I have to remind myself day after day whenever I get myself attracted to somebody. Before you start a relationship, think about it, what if u break up with that someone? Will you be able to bear that heartache? What will the other ppl see in u? Yes, being in "Love" like what they say is like being on cloud nine. But i have seen many ppl’s world fall because of this issue. While the time used should be on moulding their character, making genuine friendships, and yes.. STUDIES…. it is wasted one dreaming, SMSing, thinking and going out with that so-called "special" person. One thing i’ve learnt is that feelings fool u.. and i really wished i had kept them to myself. However, i guess we make mistakes.. therefore, we have to forgive ourselves and create a better tommorow.. look ahead and see.. there are so many things to enrichen ur life.. make it a meaningful one…………. Oh btw, don’t nurse a crush.. for it’ll turn into infatuation.. Quote from Joshua Harris

Ok…that’s the end of the article. Now, not that I’m saying that it’s a really bad article or anything coz there are some parts that I do agree with the author. However, there are some things he mentioned that struck me quite relative, and being a youth myself, I feel there that it is ok to be in a relationship if you consider yourself mature enough.

First thing is, I would like to mention one or two things about the maturity section. In the first place, if you want to be with someone, that already indicates that you are already going to focus on one person because that person is special to you-for that time anyway. If however sometime down the road, things are not working out, you could break up. Of course it’s going to be hard, but what’s the point if things are not working? It’s not like you are married, then in which case I would suggest that you try to work it out because a marriage is a vow, to your partner and to God. And also, the question the author poses "Ready not to see other people and only focusing on one person?" kinda implies to me that the author is suggesting that we play the field, which totally contradicts his whole article. Weird huh?

However, I totally agree with the parents part. I know, we all have something or someone we prefer our parents to know nothing about, but really, when all’s said and done, they do know better. Also, it saves a lot of energy from having to sneak out and stuff. More than that, it is also disobedient, and the Bible says to honour your fathr and your mother, which does NOT include lying to them. I know from personal experience that telling them you are going to a friend’s place when you are actually going partying is not a good idea.

Now we come to the part where I disagree most with the author, and basically prompted this comment. Status. Whoa….what century is this? Nowadays, dates are usually paid by the two separate people, unless of course its the first date or special occasions. I mean, we girls don’t mind paying for ourselves, but if the guy insists on paying for every date, more than likely he’s gonna get dumped. It does make any decent girl feel uncomfortable. And marriage? Excuse me, teenagers these days don’t look that far down the road. All we are looking for is some kind of mutual feeling and companionship. Whoever said anything about marriage..?? I have heard of people getting together in high school and eventually got married though, but that’s rare. And what’s wrong with getting a part-time job? It doesn’t have to be something difficult, but it does finance dates and stuff that you want so you don’t have to be totally dependent on your parents. 

True, the author does make some valid points, but I think that there is nothing wrong in wanting to be with a special someone. It is just two close friends who have feelings for each other. As long as the relationship is kept pure I have nothing against it.

I mean, I had relationships before that didn’t quite work out, but those that I really care about are still friends with me. It is more important to me that I maintain some sort of a relationship with people I truly care about even though circumstances make it impossible for us to be together.

Anyway, this is my blog, so anything I say here is just my opinion. Obviously some other people would have different points of view, but like I said, this is just my opinion. No offence to anyone. ~_<

~@[d]3L!]\[#~

Talk about mucho depresso. No, I’m not talking about the latest coffee gimmick from Starbucks or Coffee Bean (although I love coffee as much as the next person), but it’s this wave of depressing mood that has hit almost everyone lately. I’m being serious. I mean I went out to a party last night, and yeah, stuff happened that was not exactly in character with a party scene. I won’t mentioned any names, but let’s just say that my friend, who was throwing the party was crying most of the night, and my other bestie was absolutely hammered due to her unrequited love for some guy, and yes, she ended up crying most of the night as well. I need not mentioned that both of them woke up this morning moody, depressed, having a really bad hangover.

So much for a good weekend. Not only that, coming online just now, the first thing I see on my friendster bulletin board is more depressing love stuff. I mean, what is happening here?? As if that’s not enough, I woke up sick this morning. Like, fever-cold sick. It was probably partly my fault anyway. I knew I should not have shared that Cruiser with another friend of mine! Well, I’m glad being sick is the only thing that’s wrong with me. I’m sooooo over being in the love game! Only thing is, now I gotta sit and listen to more of "He loves me, he loves me not" stuff….*sigh*

~@[D]3l!]\[#~

Finally! I was not good at setting up my first blog, so I guess there’s no reason why I should have expected any different about this one. Anyway, welcome one and all to my new blog! Looks pretty good ain’t it? =p However, just so you people know, I still have my other blog running, which actually leads me to wonder why I’m opening another one. Hmmm….I think it’s because I have a lot of time on my hands! Ok, if any of you are interested you can check out my other blog which is on blogspot. The address to it is on my profile in Friendster, it’s kinda boring repeating the same thing. Well I think it’s about time I shut up and go to bed now, since it’s already midnight here. Hope you all will enjoy reading my posts! Oh yea, feel free to comment if you want, just keep out the swearing, ok? Coolz…G’nite!

~@[d]3L!]\[#~